Words - Never Settle All We Have is Now

Like millions of others, I’ve watched the classic film, It’s a Wonderful Life numerous times and I see why many would say it’s the best film ever.

It offers a sense of redemption and hope and love and the magic of Christmas. If we allow ourselves to remain at the surface level, we can walk away feeling uplifted.

Never one to take things only at face value, I’ve been digging deeper and asking a lot of questions, and I’ve questioned some of the “lessons” of the film.

What I’ve concluded is that there’s a very different message or lesson embedded in the film, at least for me. It’s clear in my mind, because we’ve just finished watching it.

Here’s what I’ve drawn from it:

It’s a meaningful life. Clearly, George Bailey’s life has meaning. He’s been a powerful force in the lives of everyone around him. His decisions and actions blessed countless others, and no doubt had a ripple effect beyond even what was revealed to him by Angel Second Class, Clarence.

It’s a significant life. No doubt George’s actions and decisions made a significant difference in the lives of others. He saved his brother, Harry, from drowning; Harry went on to save the lives of countless others in the war.

He followed in his father’s footsteps, keeping the Building and Loan alive after his father’s death. In so doing, he gave his uncle, Billy, purpose and work for a lifetime, and kept him on track in spite of his faulty memory.

He kept his love, Mary, from being a spinster librarian (actually – she would have chosen that path; she wasn’t naturally doomed to it).

He kept Mr. Gower, the pharmacist, from poisoning a little boy when he filled the prescription capsules with poison, rather than the appropriate medicine because he was lost in pain (and drink) from hearing of the death of his son.

He kept Bedford Falls from falling into the greedy, mean-spirited grasp of Mr. Potter, who would turn it into a wasteland of the dirtier, grittier, less-than-wholesome side of life and business.

He created a path for so many Bedford Falls residents to realize the dream of homeownership by offering reasonable financing and building options, otherwise unavailable to them. By extension, he gave them responsibility, pride, community, hope…

His union with Mary restored the life to a once-regal, broken down old home, and filled it with the laughter of four beautiful children.

And clearly, as the end of the movie so movingly demonstrates, all those whose lives he touched were willing and ready to come to his aid in his moment of need.

What gets to me though, is that George lived the life everyone else thought he should live. He played the roles everyone else assigned to him. In every instance, he took on the responsibility of others and subverted his own desires for adventure and architecture and building amazing structures.

He did the “right” things.

I have to ask: Was it really the “right” thing? Was it really the life he was intended to lead? Is the underlying lesson here that we should suck it up and go along and do what everyone else expects us to do? Does that lead to a full and satisfying life?

His actions allowed everyone else to life the lives of their dreams, while he stayed behind and held down the proverbial fort.

It reminds me of a series of television ads I saw a few years ago created by some financial services company. It showed a couple in their 60’s (you see this through the graying hair and age in their faces) who can “finally live the life you dreamed of” because they successfully reached “retirement age.” They could quit doing the life-sucking work they’d been sentenced to, and because they (presumably) planned and invested correctly, they could now go on adventures, explore the world, and take the time and space to be more creative in their lives.

But there’s no guarantee any of us will reach that age and that state of financial security. And I question why it needs to be that way? Why do we insist having “the safe job” and making the “right salary” is the path to happiness? If it fills your bank account while draining your soul, what’s the true value?

Was it, in fact, a good exchange?

You see, every moment you choose to do any thing, you are exchanging your precious and perishable life energy for whatever that thing is. You will not get any of those moments back. And I’m not convinced the meaning of life is to do all the things the way those who have gone before have done them or think we should do them.

I think we were created to be creative. I believe we were given unique skills, talents, ideas and desires to bring our creativity to life. I don’t believe the purpose of life is to endure and survive until we die!

So, yes… George Bailey undoubtedly lived a full, meaningful, powerful, and significant life. I can’t help but wonder what more he might have accomplished had he chosen differently and wrote his own ending. What greater impact he may have had had he spread his wings, traveled the world, and shared his gifts within a larger sphere. And who else might have stepped forward in Bedford Falls to be forces for good, so to speak, in his absence.

It will likely remain an unanswered question; just a potential storyline in the corners of my mind.

So, I leave you with these questions about you and your life:

  • What voice is speaking to you within the depths of your soul?
  • What whispers are you hearing (ignoring?) that call you to something more interesting, something more creative?
  • What do you long to explore, create, bring to life, and share with the world (even if it’s only in your little corner)?
  • Which path will you choose to follow?

And I wonder… do we really want the people who have made a meaningful difference in our lives to have to wait until the end of theirs – or til crisis rears its ugly head – to let them know what they mean to us? Is there someone who would benefit from hearing, in simple language, just what they mean to you or how what seemed like a small act of kindness changed the course of your day or your life?

One of my mentors said, “How do you know if someone needs to be encouraged?… If they are breathing!” It’s true… we could all use more kind words, more acknowledgement of the value we bring. I challenge you to start a new practice and let the people around you know what they mean to you more often and how much you appreciate their efforts on your behalf.

We are on the brink of a new year… and the truth is, in any given moment, we can make a new choice about who we will be, what we will choose to do, and what we might have to offer.

I hope you choose thoughtfully. I hope you choose honestly. I hope you choose with courage and bravery.

You see… whatever it is that you were created to bring to the world is truly singular and unique to you. No one else in all of time has the power to do that one thing but you. And if you choose to remain on autopilot, if you choose to follow the path defined for you by someone else, if you choose to not show up and share it… It will NOT be. We will not have it.

And that would be a disservice. We will all be lesser for it.

Blessings to you all this holiday season. Whatever your spiritual or religious beliefs and practices may be, I send you light and love, peace and joy, health and wealth, and hopes for deeper connection, more meaning and richness… for prosperity and healing in the New Year!

Antique Typewriter

They typed themselves out of a job

Once upon a time, there was a typing pool at a university. This group of women was accomplished, professional, and could be counted on to get the work done. Whatever needed to be typed in the course of the University’s business, they took care of it; correspondence, documentation, course work, administrative… you name it, they typed it. Fast, accurate, thorough.

There came a day when an official of the University came to tell the women of a new tool called a Word Processor. The school was planning to invest in a number of them and the women would all be trained in how to use them.

The women balked. What a silly idea – to foolishly invest in all that newfangled machinery when the women had it covered! They had their trusty typewriters, which they knew inside and out, and they were getting the work done. Fast, accurate, thorough. “We haven’t let you down, yet,” they said. “We’ll keep taking care of it.”

They successfully influenced the official to not move forward with the new technology.

It was only a temporary reprieve

But then the day came when the University couldn’t ignore the technological revolution any longer. Typed documents were no longer doing the job because there was speed lost in the “manual transmission.” Typed documents had to be mailed or carried or transferred from place to place and that took time. Word processed documents didn’t have to be actually printed. They could be transferred via disks and could be modified without having to be completely retyped.

The typing pool was fired. They were no longer relevant. They hadn’t wanted to learn how to use the “newfangled machinery” and worked themselves out of a job.

There were others who were naturally excited by the advancement and the new technology who were eager to learn and even creative in how the word processors could be used in new ways.

At some point in our lives – perhaps most often in our adult lives – this happens to all of us. We develop a skill, some expertise, we master a process or a piece of equipment. We establish ourselves as the “go-to person” for whatever it is… then something new comes along that will change the way that work gets done and we have a decision to make: Learn, grow, move forward. Or, dig our heels in and refuse to budge – insisting we’ve got it covered.

There’s no growth in the Comfort Zone and no comfort in the Growth Zone

What happened to the typing pool has happened to countless others in too many industries to name. Consider the automotive industry. A lot has been done with robotics and automation that has eliminated a lot of jobs that one or more people used to be needed to take care of.

And when the automation is being discussed, the Unions get all riled up and object – forcefully. “You can’t take those jobs away!” It’s true. Technology has changed how we work, and in some instances, has eliminated a number of specific jobs. It may no longer take 6 people to do what 1 can now handle, operating a machine.

Coal mining has experienced something similar. Where it used to take many men to trudge deep into a mountain with pickaxes to chip away at a vein of coal… dark, dirty, dangerous work (with well-known long-term health issues that nobody wants). Now, technology does more of that dangerous work, requiring fewer people deep in the mines. Jobs have been eliminated.

Business sustainability requires change

Yes, people are negatively impacted when jobs are eliminated. They lose their jobs, worry about how to pay bills, support their families, get access to health care and other services. It’s real and it can be scary.

Businesses, however, are also fighting for their livelihoods and longevity at the same time. They need to keep up with changing technology and ensure their products and services remain relevant and in demand. They have to be able to produce something people will buy and at a price they can afford.

It’s easy to see when you’re standing outside the process and can consider both sides of the story. Nearly impossible to do this when you’re on the inside, playing a key role in the story and it’s your job that’s about to be eliminated.

There are no promises or guarantees on either end. There are risks and uncertainties for everyone involved.

What we don’t lose in the process

When jobs are eliminated because that specific work is no longer necessary or it’s now handled by some kind of technology, what we haven’t lost in the process is the skill, knowledge, expertise, and experience held within the person. We don’t lose their natural brilliance and ability to adapt – if they choose to – and refocus what they know and can do on some other thing.

Specific jobs may go away. At the same time, new kinds of jobs – doing new things – are created.

We’re in this space right now

As I write this, we are in week 4, I believe, of the COVID-19 lockdown. Businesses have been shut down all over the world in an attempt to slow the spread of this pandemic. Many of those businesses will never reopen. The chasm between how things were pre-virus and whatever new paradigm unfolds will have been too great. The financial impact will be too devastating to recover from, for some.

Jobs will be eliminated as a result. And new ones will be created. That’s how it works.

As we go through – and grow through – this global experience, we are learning things, discovering things, creating new things… even if we aren’t consciously aware it’s happening in the moment.

“Business as usual” will no longer exist. It can’t. It was unsustainable in so many ways.

The exciting thing is: We get to create something new. We get to examine our old paradigms and come to understand what makes sense now. We get to create new belief systems. New ways of working together, new ways of creating. New ways of being, really.

Drawing on our core

At our core, we are brilliant, inherently creative, capable, and resilient. Yes, times are uncertain. It may be very unsettling right now. We don’t yet know how this is all going to unfold. But it will unfold; think of it as a time of rebirth.

Collectively, we have what it takes to make our way through this and emerge on the other side stronger, wiser, more connected, more creative, and perhaps even more satisfied with our lives. We will have come to know, in a very visceral way, what truly matters most and what we are willing to exchange our precious life energy for.

At the same time, it will require us to change, to grow, to be uncomfortable.

We are required to leave our comfort zones

Prior to COVID-19, we were all living our lives, such as they were. We got up each day to do whatever it was we were doing, and would go to bed at night, so we could get up the next day and do it all over, again. Millions – billions – of people on autopilot, just getting through the days. Not really “alive” but functioning.

We have been awakened by this event. Things will never be the same. We aren’t going to “get back to normal.” That life no longer exists.

But we do have a future and we have the ability to author what happens next in our futures. Ask yourself these questions: Was I truly happy with how I was living? Was I getting out of bed each morning excited about what the day would bring? Or was I dreading the alarm clock because it meant I had to go to work and do a job I hate?

If you are in the “dreading the alarm” space, now’s the time to write a plot twist in your story. Now’s the time to get out of your comfort zone. Now’s the time to become a new version of you.

Retooling is your responsibility

You’ve heard it said, “The only constant is change.” Trite – annoying, even – yet true. Regardless of how we might like to think it’s just all the same, change is happening all the time, all around us.

We have a decision to make: Will we change, too? Or, will we dig our heels in and turn out like the typing pool, irrelevant… left behind in a world that changed while we stood by watching, our mouths hanging open in disbelief?

What I’ve experienced and observed, after nearly 30 years in business, is that it’s important to be in the process of learning and growing throughout our lives. To remain relevant in our jobs or the companies we build, we have to continuously grow our skills, expand our thinking, be willing to learn something new.

When jobs are eliminated due to advances in technology, new processes, whatever the case may be, new jobs are also created. And if we don’t want to be left behind, we need to be proactive in growing, as well.

That might mean studying for a new degree. It might mean taking a night class. It might mean a series of weekend workshops. It will vary for each of us… but it will require an investment of time, energy, and sometimes money. It will likely mean we sacrifice something along the way – for a while – while we are in that learning process.

Becoming a “gap filler”

Don’t misunderstand me. I do believe companies also have responsibility to invest in the growth of their people, as well. But it’s not entirely up to them. And if you leave your growth – your future up to your employer, then you subject yourself to growing in whatever way suits their purposes best… not necessarily in line with your desires.

For example, prior to starting my own business as an Executive Coach and Leadership Teacher, I worked in corporate communication. In one company, my manager decided I should be responsible for the company website – every single piece of it! I was already responsible for content – writing, editing, etc. I worked closely with the graphics team on design, but they did the actual design work. I worked closely with the IT folks on functionality, but they did the actual work to make it happen. It made sense, divvying up the work this way based on our expertise.

My manager didn’t really get that. She thought I should be responsible for content, design, and technical functionality. She decided I needed to learn programming. She pushed me to sign up for an online programming course. She implied that keeping my job depended on my compliance.

I remember spending – wasting – countless hours over about six months attempting to get through that class. No, it shouldn’t have taken that long, but I dreaded doing it. I didn’t learn it well; made lots of mistakes and did a lot of the projects over and over and over… It wasn’t within my natural strengths, it wasn’t of interest to me, and I resisted every step of the way.

In the end, it was a waste of a lot of time, energy, and money. The IT and Graphics managers were able to convince my manager that they weren’t going to let go of their pieces of the website, so I would never be fully responsible for all of it, regardless of what she wanted.

But, for a while there, I was in real danger of being forced into a gap she thought she saw and wanted to fill. I realized that if I didn’t take full responsibility for my growth and design of my career path, I would be at the mercy of whomever I worked for in the future.

And you will be, too.

What’s calling to you?

As we find ourselves in this current state of unexpected, forced down time… I wonder what you will do with it?

I’m curious to know if you so love your work that you long to get back to it, or if you dread going back, even though you feel you need to because you need the money.

I’m curious to know what’s been calling to you from the depths of your spirit. What you are curious to learn more about or explore? I’m curious to know if you will listen and follow that voice. I’m curious to know if you will become the author of your story and write the next chapters aligned with what matters most to you.

Retooling will take time, attention, energy, and some form of investment. It may not be easy or fun in the process, but it will allow you to remain relevant in an ever-changing global economy. It will allow you to be the driver and not put you at the mercy of what someone else thinks you should be doing. It can allow you to get up each morning excited about what your day will bring, rather than dreading the alarm.

The future IS emerging

While we are still in the midst of this pandemic, the future is already unfolding even though we can’t see clearly what it is becoming. As it has after other significant events – tsunami’s, hurricanes, tornadoes, epidemics… life will go on, business will move forward.

But it won’t be just like it was and neither will we.

I think this is a time for a re-set. We get to imagine what we’d like to see, be, do, and have. We have opportunity to create something new. We have the opportunity to come together to collaborate and really connect with others. We get to influence what emerges as this unfolds.

Yes, it is scary. There’s a lot of fear and anxiety floating around. We don’t know everything. We don’t have all the answers. We don’t know how long it will last. And yet, every day we wake up is an opportunity to create, to actively think new thoughts, to imagine something different, to connect, collaborate, to release the things that no longer serve us…

It’s a choice. What will you choose?

©Laura Prisc, The Most Trusted Authority on Conscious Leadership for High Performing Organizations; Conscious Leadership Partners; all rights reserved. April 2020. Laura can be reached at laura@lauraprisc.com.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Scrabble Game Board

It’s true: FBLEMUR is NOT an acceptable word in the Scrabble dictionary. I know. I checked.

As I did with a number of other potential words. Like: Oahutua. Ibexslingo.

On the other hand, there are a number of words that turn out to be acceptable in the Scrabble dictionary that I would have bet good money were not words.

So, there you have it: The paradigms we’ve been using as the frameworks for how the world works are not necessarily sound. Big surprise – right?!!

I bet you’re wondering how I’ve come by this precious and shocking wisdom. Here’s the story.

Game Play and Competition

I have a 13-year-old son. We play games. While I know that a little healthy competition is normal and can be a good thing, I’m thoughtful about how it is modeled.

In fact, as a certified Strengths Coach, I know some people are literally hard-wired for competition; but there are healthy levels and unhealthy levels of how that shows up.

Back to the games… Games are obviously set up for competition. There are rules. There are players. There are expectations that someone wins, and someone loses.

But what if we could change the rules, the way we think about and play, and subsequently, change the outcomes? What if we could create space for creativity and collaboration, instead?

When my son was younger, he had the Cars (movie) version of Monopoly. Instead of hotels, we bought specific cars from the movie, and they were more or less expensive just like the houses and hotels in the traditional version. Of course, we often had our favorites; I loved Uncle Topolino!

As we made our way around the board, buying cars and building wealth – or losing it, as the case might have been – we also helped each other once in a while. He might forgive an expected payment when I landed on one of his parking spaces but was low on cash. Or we might trade cars, so one or both of us could have a complete set of preferred cars.

Collaborative Scrabble

It’s similar to how we play Scrabble now. We ask for and trade specific letters that we need to make a word. Sometimes, we slide our letter tray around so the other can see and we work together to come up with words and figure out where they might fit on the board.

The whole idea is how to make really good words. Certainly, we also want to get good points out of the words we make, but really, it’s more about making good words, using more letters, and having fun.

In fact, collaborative Scrabble is always marked by lots of laughter over the ridiculous words we come up with. Like FBLEMUR, or OAHUTUA. Or the time when we were discussing what to do with the Z… and I said, “you could make Zip, Zap, or Zebedee!”

Don’t ask me why – Zebedee?! – obviously, the letters weren’t actually available to make it, but it simply flowed out of my mouth in the moment. It was even funnier when one of the readings in church the next day was, in fact, about Zebedee! We’re still laughing about it weeks later.

So, what’s the point of all this, you might wonder? Why is she writing to me when I’m a leader, a business owner, someone trying to get something serious done???

Because it applies to you. Especially now.

The New is Emerging

The way we’ve been working and living is no longer the norm, nor will it be the norm when we emerge from the current COVID-19 situation. Something new is being birthed and we have choices to make about how we will either flow with it or resist it as it unfolds.

This is a time for creativity, for innovation, for examining and busting old paradigms, for creating new ones. It’s a time to come together and really connect with the people around us. To explore and being to life the collective genius we embody.

It’s time to assess and inventory our real resources – both tangible and intellectual – and design new ways of thinking, creating, collaborating, working, and living.

It’s a time for new leadership to emerge; and perhaps, a time for ineffective leadership to fade away.

It’s dressed in frightening clothing, for sure… but don’t mistake the opportunity facing each of us. It’s a new time. What will you do with it?

What will you do?